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Are You Being Who You Are?

November 5, 2010

     Early this morning I watched a video from my teachers Rev. Michael and Rickie Beckwith.  If you’re not familiar with the work of this dynamic couple, I urge you to check them out at    Michael is the founder of the Agape Spiritual Center and Rickie puts the words from God into songs that inspire and uplift thousands around the world.  They both demonstrate the pure love of God in every action.

     But what came through the screen more than the words and music was their presence.  This team is so clear in their purpose, so focused on their sharing, that the audience sees their hearts, feels their love and has an inner knowing that they are in the presence of God.  I myself have felt this pure being-ness as I have attended a couple of workshops given by the Beckwiths myself.

     It had me wondering “are we being who we are?” in the world and for our clients?  As a helping professional who works with people coping with death, there is an even more urgent need to be totally present with the customer and to share heart-to-heart with them in their sorrow.  But do we fully?  Is there a part of us still thinking about arrangements for tomorrow’s service that have to be finalized?  Or concern about a team member who isn’t fulfilling the job requirements?  Or the emails waiting to be responded to.  Life throws a lot of demands at us these days.

     Death doesn’t.  The customer or client’s world has stopped.  They’re not worried about emails or work or even what’s for dinner tonight.  They’re in the moment alright, but it doesn’t feel good.  They need guidance and support, compassion and understanding.  And they want it from you.

     When I was helping my mother die she would beg me to take care of myself.  “You can’t get sick,” she’d say.  “I need you to be healthy so you can help me.”  I knew what she was saying and now I remind you of the same.  Get your rest.  Do your exercises.  Build in time for fun with family and friends.  Go to your spiritual center.  Refresh and refuel yourself for the work you do.  Your presence at this time requires you to be truly present with that grieving heart who needs your assurance right now.  And I happen to believe this is the greatest gift two humans can give each other: the gift of ourselves, in the moment.

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